The loss of a loved one is a grief that takes years for some people to reconcile. Often, bereaved people rely on those around them for comfort and understanding, but not everyone is sensitive to the grief of others.

On Reddit, a woman whose fiancé died in a car crash just a month before their wedding revealed her frustration after her own sister – also set to get married soon – asked to walk down the aisle in the Wife’s unworn wedding dress.

After the death of her fiancé in 2021, she returned to live with her parents to overcome her grief. Although she never wore it, she kept her wedding dress because it has sentimental value.

Things turned sour when her sister, who is getting married later this year, asked if she could have the unworn dress to save some money.

“She keeps talking about her future in-laws expecting them to pay so much money for [a] place and invite many guests,” the woman wrote via Reddit. “She and her fiancé can’t afford much and last week she and my mom asked if she could have my wedding dress to wear to his wedding.

The woman was ‘shocked’ by her sister’s request but didn’t want to overreact so she ‘politely declined’. However, her mother and sister were not satisfied with her response.

“She and mom started talking about financial difficulties and how I have the potential to help, but I refuse and I’m negative,” the woman continued. “I told them how this dress had a personal attachment and value after they said the wedding didn’t happen anyway and I couldn’t create any memories, which was hard to believe. To hear.”

The grieving woman noted that a “quarrel ensued” after her sister criticized her as “selfish and unsupportive”. Meanwhile, her mother sided with her sister.

“Mom always sided with her and said I was wrong and that this dress would only hang in the closet if I didn’t ‘do something’ with it because my fiancé wasn’t coming back and ‘I refused’ to move on even though it hasn’t even been that long,” she wrote. “Dad is on my side, but I started to think maybe I wasn’t helpful seeing my sister struggling and needing help. Mom said it could make or break our relationship for them. years to come, especially when I don’t have many people around me after this loss.”

In the comments section, users were furious with the woman’s family, with many blaming the bride-to-be for asking to wear the dress in the first place.

“Jesus is tap dancing Christ. Titled mother and sister there. I can’t say anything that won’t get me in trouble here. So I’ll just repeat that you are NTA [not the a–hole]. Stay with dad, let darling mom and sister take care of your sister’s wedding dress problems without you. It’s been less than a year. I can’t,” one person wrote.

“I hope you have the dress somewhere they can’t find it. They are cruel and insensitive and I would text them. ‘I just want to repeat that I disagree with [her] use my wedding dress, and I don’t want any of you asking me that again. It doesn’t matter if you understand my grief, you just have to respect my boundaries. Please don’t come back to this,” someone else commented.